They only want to be seen in THEIR most positive light. Remember that. Everything they say is always going to be shaded in their favor. Very rarely does anyone get cut out of something "for no reason." There is always a reason; granted the reason may be defined as stupid, ignorant, or otherwise by either party, but that's not the point. It's never "nothing." There is always "something" no matter how small and insignificant it may seem (the way I parted my hair on Monday, that I talked to someone you don't like, etc.) It can also be big things (though they would never tell you that) like they stole something, verbally abused a significant other, lied at their job, or tried to make someone else take the hit for them. Oops.
This brings me to another point- People who place controls over who you are allowed to see, excepting parents who are raising teenagers who are testing limits and patience, do not deserve to have you in their life. This includes: boyfriends and girlfriends who pitch fits when you talk to someone who isn't them, the aunt who gets mad at you for associating with her sister, and the high school buddy who is trying to hold onto the old clique. You are not responsible for other people's responses to your actions. You ARE responsible for your responses to other people's actions. Bearing that in mind, you are allowed to cut people out of your life if they hurt you or don't make your life better. Why waste your time and energy on people that wouldn't and don't bother for you?
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