Do it like I said.
Because that is the right way.
Except for sometimes.
Because that is the right way.
Except for sometimes.
Thursday, April 25, 2013
Wednesday, April 24, 2013
Things I learned, and want all the munchkins on FB to know NOW!
I was on Facebook when it first started to be used by high-school students. I was keeping in touch with people from speech meets (I know, I know...) Here are some things I have observed, and information I am willing to bestow on the very young people who have found their way onto Facebook now, as someone who has moved on into "young adulthood." (Just for the record, I am very aware of how condescending that sounds. Sorry about that.)
- Those long convos that you like to have on wall posts, and pictures, yeah, they aren't so cool when you graduate from college. I know it's a social norm, and a very important part of your communication, much like texting is and IMing was, but it really is annoying to everyone not involved in the conversation.
- Don't typ lik dis. No kool. NOT CUTE. Not smart.
- I know most people have gotten better, but please watch the privacy settings! Double check every new album, picture, and status update, unless of course you want to share everything with the world. If that is your goal in life, to do away with all sense of privacy (and attempt to create your own land of celebrity as it were) who am I to say boo?
- Not everyone needs to be your friend. They are not Pokemon. We don't need to catch them all.
- Everyone can see everything you post on your wall, and the more comments, the more popular and the more flags it gets. Don't have dumb arguments on your wall. It's the equivalent of standing in the middle of the school hallway and hollering. Very mature.
- Not all of those pictures of you and your friends making those silly faces are going to make you proud. Ditto for the selfies that are running rampant even more so thanks to Instagram... We know what you look like, and so do all your classmates. Relax. I'm not saying stop it all, but we don't need four new ones per day...
- It is okay to wait to post your relationship status until you know it will last more than 2 weeks.
- It's okay to keep secrets. By that, I mean, we don't need to know everything about you or all your friends.
- Staying that socially connected, all the time, is not necessarily a good thing. You can (and should) exist away from everyone sometimes. You will not be in touch with all of these people for the rest of your life. Stick with the ones that are good for you and your happiness.
- Having a transcript of your teen years isn't the most important thing you will use Facebook for. I now view it as an unhappy byproduct of staying in touch with people who entertain me.
- Don't use it to attack other people. What goes around, comes around, and no, you are not invincible. Online bullying is everywhere, and you can just as easily become a target as the kid you're calling an moron.
- Mostly, know that high school is not the end. These are not the best years of your life. Those are still to come. Anyone who says otherwise is either lying, or jealous of where you're headed.
- Those long convos that you like to have on wall posts, and pictures, yeah, they aren't so cool when you graduate from college. I know it's a social norm, and a very important part of your communication, much like texting is and IMing was, but it really is annoying to everyone not involved in the conversation.
- Don't typ lik dis. No kool. NOT CUTE. Not smart.
- I know most people have gotten better, but please watch the privacy settings! Double check every new album, picture, and status update, unless of course you want to share everything with the world. If that is your goal in life, to do away with all sense of privacy (and attempt to create your own land of celebrity as it were) who am I to say boo?
- Not everyone needs to be your friend. They are not Pokemon. We don't need to catch them all.
- Everyone can see everything you post on your wall, and the more comments, the more popular and the more flags it gets. Don't have dumb arguments on your wall. It's the equivalent of standing in the middle of the school hallway and hollering. Very mature.
- Not all of those pictures of you and your friends making those silly faces are going to make you proud. Ditto for the selfies that are running rampant even more so thanks to Instagram... We know what you look like, and so do all your classmates. Relax. I'm not saying stop it all, but we don't need four new ones per day...
- It is okay to wait to post your relationship status until you know it will last more than 2 weeks.
- It's okay to keep secrets. By that, I mean, we don't need to know everything about you or all your friends.
- Staying that socially connected, all the time, is not necessarily a good thing. You can (and should) exist away from everyone sometimes. You will not be in touch with all of these people for the rest of your life. Stick with the ones that are good for you and your happiness.
- Having a transcript of your teen years isn't the most important thing you will use Facebook for. I now view it as an unhappy byproduct of staying in touch with people who entertain me.
- Don't use it to attack other people. What goes around, comes around, and no, you are not invincible. Online bullying is everywhere, and you can just as easily become a target as the kid you're calling an moron.
- Mostly, know that high school is not the end. These are not the best years of your life. Those are still to come. Anyone who says otherwise is either lying, or jealous of where you're headed.
Tuesday, April 9, 2013
Sometimes we all need a reminder that a pointy stick is not a socially acceptable way to deal with an annoying individual, no matter how much others may cheer you on in the moment. So, how are we supposed to deal with them?
Listen to them? Nope. You'll want to pull your ears off after a bit.
Ignore them? Not under threat of pain. When you decide to ignore them, then they will say something you need to know. When you don't know it, it's your butt in the wringer.
Patronize them? No. Then they will think you care.
Sic' em on someone else? Not a bad idea, especially if you have two annoying individuals...
Filter through their fluff statements and grab what you need? Most definitely.
Give them special privileges because it's the only way to make them leave? Never. Ever.
The problem with trying to come up with a plan of attack it that there isn't just one kind of annoying (see previous post.) Every single person is a different kind of annoying, and needs a different approach, not including the pointy stick. I'm rather inclined to think that most of these people are not worth that much effort. Protect your sanity, and let everyone else worry about the twits.
Listen to them? Nope. You'll want to pull your ears off after a bit.
Ignore them? Not under threat of pain. When you decide to ignore them, then they will say something you need to know. When you don't know it, it's your butt in the wringer.
Patronize them? No. Then they will think you care.
Sic' em on someone else? Not a bad idea, especially if you have two annoying individuals...
Filter through their fluff statements and grab what you need? Most definitely.
Give them special privileges because it's the only way to make them leave? Never. Ever.
The problem with trying to come up with a plan of attack it that there isn't just one kind of annoying (see previous post.) Every single person is a different kind of annoying, and needs a different approach, not including the pointy stick. I'm rather inclined to think that most of these people are not worth that much effort. Protect your sanity, and let everyone else worry about the twits.
Sunday, April 7, 2013
Kinds of Annoying People ~Work Edition~
*Disclaimer: these are the kinds of people that could be seen as annoying by an independent worker somewhere in the middle of the power structure of a work environment that changes atmosphere more often than an amoeba changes shape.*
Over My Head- goes over your head, behind your back, and around the entirety of everyone to get to what they think should be done the way they think it should. Usually involves bypassing the chain of command, and ignoring protocol. Extra points if they get away with it because they've been there the longest, sell the most, or are just sneaky enough to get away with it.
Sympathy Fisher- will say anything to elicit a response; Woe oh woe!
Second Guesses- double checks everything you do. Is sure that you didn't/won't do it right. We aren't terribly sure why they feel the need to double check everything (insecurity, trust issues, etc,) but it doesn't do much to your ego to be reminded that their confidence in your abilities is almost zilch.
The Underminer- For reasons best known to them, they sabotage/ dig holes into everything you do.
The Manipulator- is particularly annoying if you know they're a manipulator and don't fall for it. They will most likely keep trying with great effort. Can be good entertainment, but only in small doses.
The Buck-Passer- passes everything off on everyone else; can call it "delegating." It's not. It is also close to a guarantee that they will still take credit for the finished product.
Oh-My-Life!- You hear everything, and all the drama in their little world. Bonus points if they share with customers (see unprofessional.)
But I need it NOW!- and put everything else you're doing on hold because I said so; no please or thank you, and why isn't that done yet? (which of course it should be because your life revolves around making them happy...)
The Explainer- Tells you how to do things you already know how to do. Repeatedly.
Why are you here?- That one person that you have no idea how they got hired and are keeping their job.
The Loud One- You can hear them no matter where they are in the building. You are also very aware of all their opinions regarding anything and everything. No, no one actually cares.
The Gossip- No explanation needed.
Over My Head- goes over your head, behind your back, and around the entirety of everyone to get to what they think should be done the way they think it should. Usually involves bypassing the chain of command, and ignoring protocol. Extra points if they get away with it because they've been there the longest, sell the most, or are just sneaky enough to get away with it.
Sympathy Fisher- will say anything to elicit a response; Woe oh woe!
Second Guesses- double checks everything you do. Is sure that you didn't/won't do it right. We aren't terribly sure why they feel the need to double check everything (insecurity, trust issues, etc,) but it doesn't do much to your ego to be reminded that their confidence in your abilities is almost zilch.
The Underminer- For reasons best known to them, they sabotage/ dig holes into everything you do.
The Manipulator- is particularly annoying if you know they're a manipulator and don't fall for it. They will most likely keep trying with great effort. Can be good entertainment, but only in small doses.
The Buck-Passer- passes everything off on everyone else; can call it "delegating." It's not. It is also close to a guarantee that they will still take credit for the finished product.
Oh-My-Life!- You hear everything, and all the drama in their little world. Bonus points if they share with customers (see unprofessional.)
But I need it NOW!- and put everything else you're doing on hold because I said so; no please or thank you, and why isn't that done yet? (which of course it should be because your life revolves around making them happy...)
The Explainer- Tells you how to do things you already know how to do. Repeatedly.
Why are you here?- That one person that you have no idea how they got hired and are keeping their job.
The Loud One- You can hear them no matter where they are in the building. You are also very aware of all their opinions regarding anything and everything. No, no one actually cares.
The Gossip- No explanation needed.
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