How do you tell a dear friend that you are afraid they are making a mistake? When your entire being wants to scream, cry, and smack them upside the head; beg them to reconsider. But instead of doing that, you breathe, and pray, and because you love them, you tread carefully. What's worse, telling someone they're going to get hurt and risking them telling you to take a leap, or keeping silent, when you know that the results aren't going to be pretty?

 

Part of me wants to scream "Why did you bring me into this??? Did you tell me because you valued my opinion, needed input, or a friend who would keep their mouth shut?" No matter what the motivation was/is, now I feel responsible. I have no idea if I am or not, but I really to feel that way. And even if I'm not, which I'm not so sure I'm not, I think I will always feel somewhat responsible. I can't help it. I feel like I have a stake in this now, especially if it turns out badly. Shouldn't I have said something?

 

It isn't a black and white situation, and they are looking at it like it is. There is so much grey that is getting ignored, and it scares me. We live in this grey area, and when we start making decisions that are contingent on existing in black or white only, we will ALWAYS run into trouble. There isn't any physical danger in the imminent future, but mental... I'm not sure. I know I am missing bits and pieces, but knowing what I do, I can form an opinion. My opinion is, barring unforeseen circumstances and changes in this situation, there is going to be much pain in the future. This isn't wishful thinking, or me being spiteful that they have made this decision. This is me drawing conclusions, based on how well I know this individual and out of serious concern for them. All that being said, I am fully aware that I cannot say anything, so I will keep quiet, pray I am wrong, paranoid, and overreacting, and be there for them if and when something goes wrong; very rarely in my life have I wanted so badly to be so wrong.